Valentine’s Day is coming up and it is a great opportunity to strengthen your relationship. Valentine’s Day is typically viewed as a night for a big sweeping romantic gesture, in the form of an elaborate date night or gift, but it doesn’t have to be. This Valentine’s Day be intentional with your planning: plan a date that will strengthen your relationship and make both you and your partner feel more loved. To help get you started, here are some ideas:
Turn your phones off for the night: spend a night together that is free of any outside distractions. How often does you partner receive your undivided attention? By shutting off your phone, you are telling your partner that they are a priority to you and you value the time you spend together.
Surprise: Adding a little bit of spontaneity and mystery can make for a really fun date. For Valentine’s Day, split the date into two equal parts: both you and your partner are responsible for planning one half of the date. Decide which section of time you are responsible for and don’t tell your partner what you are planning. It can be helpful to set some rules, such as: location, budget, attire, etc., to make sure everything goes smoothly. While planning your part of the date, try to be creative! Here are some ideas: spa, indoor sky diving, eccentric restaurant, comedy show, arcade, massage or a cooking class. Whatever it is, I hope this date night reminds you of how much fun you have with your partner.
Write each other a love letter: this is a classic staple of romance and before you declare this as too sappy, hear me out first. A love letter does not have to a long and dramatic declaration of love, and you do not have to be an eloquent writer to write one. In a love letter, your partner should be able to hear your voice while reading it and see aspects of your personality shining through. A love letter is a great way to remind your partner of how much they mean to you, even if you don’t say it all the time. A love letter can serve as the validation your partner may be needing, and it can be a source of comfort during times of doubt.
Create a video: Make your partner a video of some of your favorite pictures together. It will not only be beneficial for you to look back and reminisce on some of your happiest times, but your partner will also enjoy such a personal and thoughtful gift.
Talk: this is the simplest idea and yet it can be very powerful. Set up a room with some blankets, pillows and turn on soft background music that isn’t distracting (piano, jazz, etc.). Light a couple of candles and spread them out throughout the room to cast a nice, flickering glow and then turn off all the lights. This will create a romantic environment, while remaining easy and comfortable.
I hope this helps you as you begin to plan a Valentine’s Day that is romantic, meaningful and beneficial for your relationship.