By: Grace Gufler
Romantic relationships require daily work, thoughtfulness and time. Dates are necessary for any successful romantic relationship; although they are often the first thing to go in our busy lives. After the passion and excitement has died, we begin to lose appreciation of time with our significant other. This happens because we begin to think about our significant other’s presence as a given: they will always be there. Therefore, we prioritize other things, become distracted easily, fall into a routine and forget about romance. This leads to emotional distance, withdrawal and lost connection.
A sustainable, healthy and happy relationship cannot exist without engaging in consistent and intimate dates. Many people do not plan dates because of the misconception that dates need to be expensive, scheduled and lengthy. This does not have to be the case! A date is any experience in which a couple spends quality time together, are attentive to one another and increases connection.
I recommend having, at least, one date a week with your significant other. Below you will find some date ideas to help get you started. For these dates to really be quality time with one another, it is important that: the phone, television and all other distractions are away.
- Going for a walk together
- Cooking dinner together
- Turning off the lights, lighting candles and talking
- Taking a bath together
- Giving each other massages
- Going out to eat
- Couples yoga
- Playing a game: war, connect four, checkers (something easy that you can talk during)
- Having a picnic: Inside or Out
- Stargaze in the backyard or sit on a balcony
- Get ice cream or desert to go
- Go to a coffee shop in the morning before work or on a weekend
- Go for a drive
- Do a puzzle
I hope this list helps get you started in planning weekly dates with your partner. Remember, a date can be easy, priceless and done in the spur of the moment. Talk with your significant other and create a list of dates together. This will help you be successful in having a weekly date.